Many people across the United States and here in New York go through the divorce process every single year. In addition to all of the adults who are wrangling with divorce, thousands of children are going through this as well. While divorce is difficult for adults, it is an entirely different situation for children. It is important to take proper precautions to help your children through the divorce. According to Kid’s Health, one of the best things you can do for your children is to maintain normality as much as possible.
Having a consistent routine is key where navigating divorce is concerned. It is optimal for the children to stay in the original home and school system if at all possible. When one parent moves out of the house, establishing a consistent routine for visitation or shared custody is very important. If the environment remains stable, the child will be able to handle the unpredictable parts of divorce much easier.
Another thing to keep in mind is that no matter how upset you may be with your ex-spouse, that person is still your child’s other parent. If you have frustration or anger toward your ex-partner, make sure not to unload any of those feelings onto your children. While it is important for you to manage your emotions in a healthy way, finding an appropriate outlet that does not involve the kids is key to success. Even if your children happen to be a bit older, containing your negative emotions to a trusted therapist or friend is always the better bet. You do not need to express positive emotions about the divorce to your child if you feel negatively, but remaining neutral is optimal.